Getting rejected is tough. All you want is to show off your cool Country dance moves, but you can’t catch a break. You keep asking her for a dance, but all you’re hearing is “No”. Have you considered why? Let’s take a look at some of the reasons why she won’t dance with you.

First, it’s easy to get sweaty when you’re dancing the night away-especially here in Arizona where temperatures dip down to 100 degrees at night. That’s darn hot! Just speaking for myself, I don’t particularly love dancing with someone who is dripping sweat all over me-especially if I don’t know them. So my first thought is to handle your perspiration issue before asking her for a dance. OK, it’s not really an issue, but it’s also not that becoming, and could leave a sour taste in her mouth when it comes time to future dance opportunities with her.

On that note, if your hygiene in general is not up to par, teeth brushed, deodorant on, etc…, then we may have just identified why you’re being turned down. Whether you’re going out to the Country bars around town, or the Latin clubs, we ladies appreciate a guy who takes care of himself. Now don’t go overboard by dousing yourself in cologne, but a nice-smelling man is always a plus.

If you can match that sweet scent with some solid moves on the dance floor, you’re definitely on the right track! So another way to prevent rejection is to take adult dance lessons. There are so many fun styles to explore, from Country to Swing to Latin and Argentine tango, so why not be that guy who actually knows what he’s doing on the dance floor?! Women love a man that can dance, and your confidence will be a very attractive quality to onlookers.

In that regard, there’s a huge difference between being self-assured and showing her off in a way that doesn’t make her feel safe. When I go out social dancing, I scope out the scene first before I decide who I am going to accept a dance with. If my friends and I are at a salsa club and he’s flipping and dipping her without regard for her comfort, he’s automatically on the “no” list.  Please keep her comfort in mind. She is not a rag doll waiting to be tossed around to make you look cool.

When I see a guy who is well-groomed, on time with the music and focused on her and having fun, I’m hoping that he will ask me to dance next. That’s the kind of guy that I would venture to guess that other girls would like too. If you’re lacking in any of these areas, it’s not too late to prepare for your next night out. Go take some beginner’s Private Dance Lessons and a long hot shower, and you’re on your way to a better experience. I promise! Good luck!!