As an ballroom dance instructor in Phoenix for 16 years now, I have heard and seen it all from my students. At Dance FX Studios, we have taught couples that were on their first date, couples whose marriage counselors have suggested that they learn to dance as a means of saving their marriage and couples who were just getting married. We have also instructed guys and gals who came in individually looking to meet that someone special, build their confidence and learn a new hobby. While the spectrum of “types” of students we have runs deep, one common question is on everyone’s mind. The number one question that my students have asked me over the years is: “How long will it take me/us to be a great dancer?” This question is tricky. Let’s explore the good, the bad and the ugly of what it takes to be a great dancer.

The Good: The good news about learning to dance is that what you put into your dancing is what you will get out of it. Like with any hobby, practicing your dancing, thinking about it and going out and enjoying it can only lead to all things good in terms of gaining assurance that you can become a great dancer. In the beginning stages of learning to dance, it is important to start with private lessons so that you can get the attention to detail with one-on-one dance instruction that is tailored for you. The biggest tip I can give any dancer? Don’t focus on your footwork as much as your leading or following skills.

The Bad: Ballroom dancing, Salsa, Swing or even Country Western dancing is a skill that does not happen over night. Time is only on your side if you take conscious steps towards your dancing goals. Find the right dance studio for you and ask your instructor what you can focus on specifically in between each lesson to continue to improve and grow. Give yourself 6 months to a year to start putting the pieces in place and gain the fluidity gained only through repetition and muscle memory and time.

The Ugly: While ANYONE is capable of being a great dancer, people generally want to take shortcuts. Who wants to wait to get out and use their dancing and have fun? Just remember that shortcuts will only prolong the time it takes you to learn to dance well. What some people may consider “the ugly” of learning to dance is that quality dance lessons are an investment. Remember that as you find a qualified studio that you will be investing in yourself and developing a life skill that will open up many doors in your life including adding romance, meeting new people and relieving stress.

I can think of no better hobby than dancing to bring about positive change in someone’s life. So, as you ponder the good, the bad and the ugly, keep in mind that dancing is the best investment in YOU and it will continue to reward you for the rest of your life.