In social partner dancing, great posture is everything! Learn few ways that your perfect posture will aid you in becoming a confident social dancer.

How to Relax During Your Dance Lessons

 arizona Country dance lessonsYou pull into the parking lot of your local dance studio when suddenly you realize, you have no recollection of driving there. The entire time you should’ve been focused on the road, you were thinking about maintaining a solid dance frame, not rocking back too far on your heels, or leading with your torso when you’re dancing the Argentine Tango. You have a few extra minutes before your dance lesson starts, so you grab some coffee. You notice your hands shaking mildly, as the anxiety is building. You’re so worked up about doing a great job and nailing all of your moves, that you can’t relax. As soon as you get out onto the floor, your body decides not to cooperate. When you want to go left, you find your right foot has a mind of its own…

Sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone. As a professional ballroom dance instructor at Dance FX Studios, the best advice I could give my students would just be to RELAX. Usually this will happen within the first few minutes of getting out on to the floor after a long day at work. However, when the anxiety lingers, that’s when I find my students having the most difficult time, whether we are Swing dancing or Country dancing. I have noticed that with just a few coping mechanisms in place ahead of time, your Private Dance Lesson can get off to a much better start.

First… When push comes to shove, I tell my students to “walk it out”! If you’re struggling with a new Salsa dance combination, FREEZE! Stop dancing for a minute so your feet can catch up with your brain and simply walk through it. By taking some time to go through your moves in slow motion, you give your body more of a chance to create the muscle memory for each skill. Once you feel more confident in walking mode, you can slowly increase the speed to polish up your transitions in and out of each Latin dance move.

Next, breathe and be patient with yourself. Just like most things in life, learning new skills takes time, and social ballroom dancing is no exception. Fred Astaire certainly did not learn to dance in a day, and it most likely will take you a bit more time too. It’s rare for almost anyone to have a complete natural ability in any sport or physical activity immediately, so give yourself time to discover and grow. With patience and great instruction, you can certainly do almost anything. If you have ever tried learning how to play a musical instrument, you probably know that you played more “wrong” notes at first than “right” ones.

Finally, know that repetition is not a punishment! Think back to Kindergarten for a moment. When you were learning how to write the alphabet, the teacher didn’t just show you once and expect you to do it perfectly thus forward. Instead she probably started with having you trace each letter several times before trying to freehand your own. Then, you wrote line after line of abc’s until you didn’t really have to think about how to shape each letter. Dancing parallels this to a tee. First you have to learn how to hold your pencil (or partner). Then you have to learn how to move your pencil across the paper (or your partner across the dance floor). Then you learn how to shape each letter (or move) robotically. After a few months of practice, you can write without having to think too hard about what shape each letter makes. How soon you can start writing in cursive smoothly will depend on how often you practice.

Ironically, adult dance lessons can be more stressful than they are relaxing in the initial stages of learning, but the end result will be a wonderfully enjoyable and quite relaxing hobby that you can use for years to come. Give yourself and those you love the gift of Private Dance Lessons to get the best results on the dance floor in the shortest time possible. Guaranteed, you will have a skill that will impress others and provide hours of fun for many years ahead!

 

How Bad Leaders Create Bad Followers on the Dance Floor

swing dance lessons ArizonaLet’s face it, when you go out Country Western dancing or Salsa dancing, it’s mostly the blind leading the blind, right? Unless you’ve taken adult dance lessons and you’re going out with friends who have also taken lessons, you’re mostly going to be dancing with others who have no idea what they’re doing. While I absolutely give these people credit for having the courage to “wing it” on the dance floor, there are a multitude of bad habits that are passed on from one untrained dancer to the next. Again, kudos to all that have the confidence to step into the dance floor, but yes, a bad leader on the dance floor can in turn create a bad follower. Here’s how:

  1. What we like to affectionately refer to the “Tug and Pull” is a perfect example of how a poor lead can create a monster on the dance floor. For example: You don’t know how to get her to go from point A to point B on the dance floor, so you “make” her go by ripping her arm out of the socket with one swift yank. She does what you want and all is well, right? Wrong! Now she won’t move until you tug and pull her around the floor, essentially manhandling her. Gentlemen, whether you’re Two Stepping or Swing dancing, a great lead is one that includes finesse and control. Make the investment into some Private Dance Lessons to discover how to get her to move without having to workout at the gym before you go dancing. She’ll soon feel light as a butterfly and you won’t need Advil for those sore muscles the next day.

2. Speaking of not having control on the dance floor, when leaders are all over the place and cannot contain their movements, we ladies tend to get dragged along for the ride, further developing the bad habit of sloppy movements that are not well-executed. Leaders, you can look and feel great to the women you dance with once you focus on my favorite concept on the dance floor which is “less really is more”. Formal instruction will help you to get the right information you need to have a successful night out Latin dancing, Swing dancing or Country dancing.

3. Lastly, and I’m not sure why, but there can be a lot of blaming involved when things don’t go right on the dance floor. People, it’s not easy to partner dance. No one is born knowing how to Tango. It does take time, training and patience. Not taking responsibility if things are not perfect is only going to add to the problem, just like it would in any partnership off the dance floor. So, when you’re learning to dance as a couple, please take responsibility for your part. It is a 50/50 partnership. Guys, take care of and protect your dance partner, and ladies, be kind, patient and please let him lead!

If you’re interested in starting with social dance lessons in popular dance styles like Country Western, Latin or Swing dancing, come try our Introductory Offer for beginner’s dance lessons at Dance FX Studios in the Phoenix East Valley. We’re located just off the 101 highway. When done correctly, social ballroom dancing is a blast! Let us show you how to strut your stuff on the dance floor.

 

What You May Not Know About Salsa Dancing

salsa dance lessons near Chandler ArizonaAs most of you know, we’ve kicked off Latin month here at Dance FX Studios, gearing up for our Spring Fiesta Latin Dance Party on Saturday, April 23rd, 2016. Tickets are only $25 per person, and with dozens of eager dancers, it will be a great opportunity to practice all of your Salsa, Bachata and Merengue dance moves! But have you ever stopped to wonder — how did we get here? Why are there all of these different Latin dance styles? Who came up with all of this? Well if so, you’re not alone. As with many things, we can learn so much by breaking down the roots of Latin dancing.

Humans have been dancing since the beginning of recorded history. No other form of self-expression or art has been around longer. In primitive times, dancing accompanied ancient rituals, spiritual ceremonies, and social gatherings. While the oldest piece of dance evidence dates back over 9,000 years, the period when dancing first became widespread can be traced to around 2000 BCE. The Egyptians often used music and dancing to convey messages and share history. This continued to evolve through time, until the next large expansion – the Renaissance.

During the Renaissance, music evolved dramatically, and with it, so did dancing. It wasn’t until this time that many European countries began to even document dancing, so our history and understanding is slightly limited. Dance styles began to come and go with each changing era, and as Europe stepped into the 1800s, societies became less conservative. Women began wearing less restrictive clothing, and dancing became more energetic with the inclusion of skipping and hopping. Shortly thereafter, around 1844, began the “international polka craze”, which led to the creation of the waltz.

While no single country can exclusively claim the credit for creating Salsa dancing, due to its widespread range of influences, the pieces started coming together in Cuba. Our first piece of the puzzle stems from Western Africa, where people danced to primarily drums and claves. It was known as the rhumba, although it looks nothing like our present-day idea of rumba. The second piece of the puzzle comes from England; specifically English country dance. It spread to France as “contredanse”, and then to Spain as “contradanza”. By the time it reached Cuba in the 1700s, it was “danza”. As danza grew and evolved in Cuba, it became known as “danzón”. By combining the traditional Cuban music with the African rhythms that were brought to the Caribbean via the slave trade, the Cuban “són” was born. Since African slaves were converted to Christianity upon arrival in Cuba, they continued to dance their traditional rhumba and preserved their religion by creating code words to refer to their own Gods. Elements of the rhumba were integrated into the evolving són.

During the roaring twenties, radio waves finally reached parts of the Caribbean, and due to prohibition, more Americans were traveling to Cuba to partake in their adult beverages. Swing and jazz music were incredibly popular in the states, and Cubans became infatuated with the brass sound, quickly incorporating it into their own music. In the 1930s, brothers Orestes and Israel “Cachao” Lopez were performing a danzón piece with a few other musicians when suddenly Orestes busted out into a completely improvised piano solo that dazzled everyone – even the other unsuspecting band members! They later titled the piece, “Mambo”. The word mambo in Bantu (a language of West Africa) means ‘conversation with the Gods’.

By 1943, Pérez Prado, who was actually good friends with Orestes Lopez, began to call his own brand of music “mambo”. He debuted this new sound, along with a brand new dance style which he also coined as mambo, at La Tropicana nightclub in Havana, Cuba. More upbeat than Cuban music, it featured the same claves, maracas and bass, but it began leaning heavily on piano and brass instrumentation, due to the jazz influences of American nightlife. It was here that he became known as the “King of Mambo”. As times became harder, many Cubans emigrated to Miami and New York, bringing with them this new sensation.

Mambo reached it’s peak in the 1950s, as dance studios, resort hotels, and nightclubs offered lessons to the public. This watered-down version of the dance removed the technical and sometimes dangerous acrobatics, and focused more on incorporating moves people already knew. As the music continued to evolve and accompany more brass instrumentation, salsa began to come alive.

The 1960s saw rise to artists such as Tito Puentes (the “king of mambo”) and Celia Cruz (the “queen of salsa”). The first record label to truly market a music genre of “salsa” was Fania Records, known by many as “the Motown of salsa”. They allowed young musicians to explore a new sound combining the tropical music of Cuba, with big band jazz and American R&B. As this sound matured in the 1970s, we saw the rise of merengue, hip hop, disco, and even the hustle! As these new dance styles intertwined with the mambo, something new was born. It was much more partner-focused, and was danced in a closed frame. We know this dance as the salsa.

In the United States, there are three styles of salsa that we find. Miami-style, which closely resembles Cuban salsa, most likely due to its geographical location. Cuban style is much more rounded, bent knees, and it’s actually not a slot dance (so no crossbody leads!). New York-style salsa, which was strongly influenced by swing and jazz music, and naturally features more swing stylization, as well as hip hop and funk elements. And finally, we have the LA-style, which is typically more flashy with extra spins, acrobatics, and belly dancing components. If you are a Dancing with the Stars fan, what you’re seeing most of them perform is the L.A. style.

Just as the name “salsa” connotes, it’s a mixture of many ingredients, all of them very different from each other. But when you chop each one up into pieces and put them together, it creates something deliciously spicy. You too can discover Salsa dancing with beginners Latin dance lessons from us at Dance FX Studios in the Phoenix East Valley. We’d be privileged to share the opportunity of our love for dancing with you!

Three Common Mistakes Made on the Dance Floor

social ballroom lessons in Mesa AZWouldn’t it be so cool to take a pill and instantly become a great social dancer? We could just skip right over all of the fear and anxiety that surrounds coming in for Country, Swing or Latin dance lessons and magically look and feel amazing on any dance floor. Heck, I would want that too! Even more so, I would like to pass that pill out to all of the dancers around me at the Country bars and Latin clubs who may need some help of their own.

While none of us are born knowing how to dance, many common mistakes on the dance floor are avoidable with adult dance lessons. Country Two Step or Salsa lessons for couples and singles are fantastic for developing great skills and habits that will set you up for success when you’re at your best friend’s wedding, on a date, or even at that annual holiday work party.

Until you get started with lessons, here are a few bad habits that you can be mindful of while you’re out dancing. See if you notice these bad behaviors in others, too, as you try to steer clear of those “wild horses” on the dance floor.

A huge, but very common issue, with newer or untrained social dancers is that they tend to exaggerate their movements. There’s no need to Swing dance your partner into another couple in order to have a good time. In fact, she’ll have much more fun if you can keep her arms in their sockets. My tip for you: Keep your steps small and your partner protected so that you can guarantee a second dance and even more fun ahead.

Next, pay attention to your timing. You may not yet know if the song you’re dancing to is a Country Swing or a Country Two Step, but hopefully you can find the beat, and when you do, stick to it. If you’re one of the many who can’t hear music, or don’t think that they have a sense of rhythm, that’s OK! Remember that Country dance lessons will help prepare you for your next night out on the town. I firmly believe that anyone is trainable, so stay positive and seek out lessons. With the right information from your local adult dance studio, you should be shining in no time!

Lastly, please pay attention to your surroundings. Keep your head up, eyes open, and plan ahead for where you want to move next. Otherwise, you may end up on someone’s lap (yes, this has happened many a time) or who knows where else, if you fling your partner around like a rag doll. There are many obstacles that can seemingly “pop out” at you if you’re unaware of your surroundings at all times . My tip for you: Be strategic. think one move ahead, kind of like you’re playing billiards, and know your stuff so everyone stays safe and has a blast dancing with you.

Again, all of these errors are typical yet completely avoidable with the correct information. Start with beginners dance lessons near you so that you can look and feel your best the next time you go out dancing. Trust me, dancing is so much more fun when you know what you’re doing. 🙂

How to be a Great Student of Dance

salsa dance lessons Phoenix ArizonaThere’s a saying in the dance world that sums up this blog on how to be a great dance student, and I’d like to start by sharing it with you. We say that beginner dancers show up to intermediate dance classes, intermediate dancers attend advanced dance classes and you will always find the most advanced dancers in the beginner dance classes. “Why are the dancers of the highest level showing up to beginner dance lessons?”, you may be wondering. Well, it’s an interesting thing when you realize that the “gold” in dancing, be it ballet or ballroom, is in the basics. Without a solid foundation, we cannot actually become competent dancers. That being said, here are a few more tips from me to you on how to be the best student you can be so that you can get the most out of each and every dance lesson.

To start, let me say that I have been a ballroom dance instructor for over two decades here in the Phoenix East Valley of Arizona. My regular readers know that I, along with my husband, own Dance FX Studios in Mesa, a social dance studio that offers private dance lessons to couples and singles across the valley. We teach Latin, Swing and Country Western dances to adults who want to gain confidence, relieve stress, add romance, and learn a new hobby.

I have literally trained thousands of couples and singles and over the years, I began to realize early on that the one thing that stands in the way of developing into the social dancers we have always wanted to be is ourselves. We stand in our own way, or in the way of our partner unfortunately, when it comes to being awesome social dancers. A recent example of this came about just a few days ago, although I could probably site an example daily, if not hourly, on how this happens. We had a single male student who was doing an incredible job in his Country dance lessons at the studio. In fact, he was feeling so confident that he grabbed a few buddies and went out to Country dancing over the weekend. He came back a few days later completely defeated. Apparently he was told that he had no idea what he was doing by someone who has never had formal instruction. She felt the need to tear him down because she wasn’t able to adapt to his style. He bought into this nonsense and now he doubts his ability, but worse, he doesn’t feel capable of learning how to dance. How sad! Rule number one in my book: Never let anyone tell you what kind of dancer you are (unless you’re seeking positive and constructive feedback from your professional instructor).

Rule number two: Believe in yourself. When you walk into a dance studio for the first time, it is very intimidating. People are Salsa dancing over there, and Swing dancing on the other part of the floor, and you’re sitting there thinking that you could never do that. You can! Don’t start with a negative mindset or it will be that much harder to break through the basics and make real progress.

Rule number three: If you want to grow, leave your excuses and insecurities at the door. This is a tough one. It’s natural to come up with “why” we aren’t getting a certain move in any given dance. Forget the whys. Let’s see how we can make it happen so that you can start to make sense of this new language called dance.

On that note, Rule number four: Come in with an open mind and forget your preconceived notions. You won’t know how well you will do on the dance floor unless you let go of what you think may happen and be open to what is actually taking place. Just because you’re a doctor, that doesn’t mean that you’ll be a quick study on the dance floor. Conversely, if you’ve always felt gawky, you may turn out to be very graceful on the dance floor with some guidance through formal instruction. Don’t stand in the way of your own success by starting your Swing or Salsa dance lessons with limiting beliefs.

My final rule, Be humble. Know that there is always more to learn, hence the advanced dancer who attends a beginner’s dance class so he can re-visit the basics. You’d be surprised at how much faster you will grow in your dancing when you come from this mindset. It’s OK to not be perfect, remember it’s the journey that matters more than the destination.

If you’re considering exploring cool social dances like Country Swing, Two Step or Salsa dancing, go for it! With proper training, anyone (yes, anyone) can learn to dance. And, if you live here in Phoenix with us, we love to help you reach your dancing dreams at Dance FX Studios. We will make learning to social dance a fun and easy experience for you so that you can shine on any social dance floor.

 

A Unique Perspective on Ballroom Dancing

swing dance lessons near Chandler AZIf you watch Dancing With The Stars, you know how elegant, sexy, passionate and fun ballroom dancing is, but did you also consider the therapeutic value of learning to dance? That’s OK, most people don’t. They only see the end result, which is a beautifully executed dance that is impressive to watch. To get that result, though, we go through many stages of growth, from discovering how to lead with confidence to giving up control to tapping into sides of our personalities we didn’t know we had.

Ballroom dances, whether we’re talking Waltz, Swing or Salsa, are thrilling to watch, but the journey of learning to dance is actually much more rewarding than the final product. If you’re looking to grow into a better version of yourself, I would like to suggest that you too learn to ballroom dance. 🙂

Now, before we go any further, you may not know it, but there are two types of ballroom dancing; competitive and social. The first I already spoke on, and that is the Dancing With The Stars version of memorizing a routine and then performing it at a competition or in a show. The second way to explore ballroom dancing is by gaining knowledge on how to take what you have learned to a social dance floor. For example, if you’re going to a wedding, a Country bar with friends, or to a holiday party, you will need to learn to social dance, not competitive ballroom dance.

Social dancing is very practical and quite popular. You can actually gain many benefits from knowing how to social dance, maybe even more than studying formal ballroom dancing. Let’s take a look at some of the unique benefits you can gain by discovering social dancing so that you can gain a new perspective on ballroom dancing.

First, if you take beginner’s Country, Latin or Swing dance lessons with your sweetheart, you will be giving each other a romantic gift in the form of a skill that you can use on many occasions throughout your lives. From Aunt Sally’s third wedding reception to that dreaded holiday work event that always has an oldies band, you will soon be able to get out there and dance at any event that presents itself. Why sit out and watch when you can strut your stuff with your partner in crime…

Social dance lessons will also reignite a flame for couples that may be in a “funk” due to kids, life, work or whatever else may have crept into the way of keeping you close. On one or two nights a week, you can make it a “date night” and take time for just the two of you by setting up couple’s dance lessons with each other on a weekly basis. How romantic would that be! Making quality time for each other is the key after all, right?

If you’re single, learning to Country Two Step or Salsa dance is definitely for you. Social dancing is an awesome way to meet new friends (who also love to dance) and maybe to even line up few dates, if that’s what you’re looking for. Regardless, when you invest in dance lessons as a single, you’ll be adding a smile to your face each time you come in, shaving off pounds from the calories you’ve burned, and filling up your cup, so to speak, each week.

Social ballroom dance lessons are finally, but most importantly, key for building that social confidence in you that you may be lacking. While you may be self-assured at work or in your home life, gaining confidence on the dance floor is a really fantastic feeling. You can literally sweep someone off of their feet when you know what you’re doing out there on the dance floor, and that’s a wonderful feeling!

Give yourself the gift of knowing how to dance. Find an adult dance studio near you and see how much fun you’re missing and how you can make a difference in your overall happiness just by learning to dance! With so many cool styles to check out, from Country to Latin to Swing dancing, you’re sure to find something that excites you.

Social Dancing, From the Eyes of a Pro

ballroom dancing in Mesa AZI truly am the luckiest person I know. Each day, I get up and go to “work” at my small business in Mesa, Arizona called Dance FX Studios. From noon to eight pm, six days a week, I get to watch singles and couples discover social dancing for the first time. Some are visibly terrified, some are jumping out of their skin excited, and most just wish they could take that magic pill that will make them confident social dancers, like, yesterday.

Regardless of who comes into my studio, I know the true power of dance, and I can’t wait to share it! My staff feels the same way. I can see it in their eyes as they take a student through an Introductory Dance Lesson on their first day in. I can also see it when they do their “happy dance” for a student who tackles a really complicated move and comes out on top. Whether you’re a newbie or have had lots of training with us, it is a joy and our true pleasure to be able to instruct social dancing, not to mention earn a living doing it!

Yesterday, I thought it would be interesting to ask my team if they could answer a few basic questions that would help our readers to have a deeper insight into social dancing. Their answers were quite revealing! Here are my top three Q and A’s  from the staff here at Dance FX Studios…

Question: As an instructor, what is the best tip you give to your students?

Here’s what Michelle said: Communication is paramount in all facets of life, but most importantly when dancing. No matter who your partner is, if you have a good connection, you’ll have a good time on the dance floor. A lot of dancers come in thinking that the only way to show their partner a good time is if they can do a million different spins and turns. When dancing with someone new, I would say it’s more beneficial to focus on building that line of communication through a solid frame, than trying to show off all of the fancy moves that you know.
My two cents: What a great point! Whether you’re learning to Country Two Step or Salsa dance, a connection with your partner is primary. That will lead to an easy and straight forward way to communicate with your other half, making dancing a breeze (or at least a lot easier!!).
Question: What is your favorite dance to teach, and why?
Here’s what Emily said: I’m gonna have to say narrowing it down to just one dance is too hard. I like to have a dance for any occasion! But if I had to I’d say it’s a tie between Nite Club 2-Step and West Coast Swing. They’re both great styles that cover so many genres of music, from Country music to Rock and Roll to oldies, versatility is my favorite thing, and both of these dances have it. Not to mention, they both have a certain level of intimacy with your partner, Nite Club being the more romantic while West Coast is much more sexy and playful. It’s all about the connection with your partner and these styles definitely have that on a deeper level!
My two cents: I too love the Nite Club 2-Step and West Coast Swing as fun social dances! I also always encourage newcomers to explore the Argentine Tango as it is THE dance to really understand what it means to lead and follow on the dance floor.
Question: What do you find is the most common reason people come in to take lessons these days?
Here’s what Bri said: At first glance, it always SEEMS like the reason people want to take lessons is because they want to be confident social dancers. Ultimately, that’s what we do here at Dance FX Studios. But when you really get to know each person individually, there’s actually so much more to it. Dance is like therapy for soul. Working through new moves and challenging oneself in a realm that is so different from the day-to-day struggles, translates metaphorically in ways that one can only experience first hand.
My two cents: Well said, Bri! We love watching people uncover the many, many benefits of learning to social ballroom dance, from fun and excitement, to meeting new friends to reconnecting with someone special.
Come experience social dancing for yourself to see what you can gain by becoming a great social dancer! On behalf of the entire staff at Dance FX Studios, we welcome you and look forward to sharing our passion for dance with you any time!

 

Three Things to Consider When Learning to Social Dance

all about social dancing in ArizonaHave you been thinking about learning to Country dance? Does taking Salsa lessons sound like a blast? Is Swing dancing something you have always wanted to do? If you answered “Yes!” to any of these questions, let the fun begin!!!

Chances are, you have been thinking about learning to social dance as a new hobby for quite some time. It has even been on your bucket list, thanks to iconic movies like Dirty Dancing and Grease. There’s truly no better time than now to get started! After all, the sooner you begin, the sooner you can get off the sidelines and onto that dance floor. No longer will you be that guy or gal that is propped up against the bar while everyone else is enjoying each other on the dance floor.

Now that you’re ready to pull the trigger and make your dreams of becoming a confident dancer a reality, let me guide you with three helpful things to consider when learning to social dance.

First, choose your dances wisely. While it would be great to know every dance, I recommend starting with three. A fast, medium and slow tempo dance is sufficient in the beginning stages of learning to ballroom dance. If you mainly hang out a Country bars because you’re a Country music fan, as an example, start by letting your dance instructor know. Ask for his/her suggestion on the top three Country dances to explore. I would tell you to go ahead with the Country Two Step, Country Swing and Nite Club Two Step as your main dances to learn. From there, we can explore other exciting styles like West Coast Swing, Country Waltz and even Line Dancing, but one thing at a time… Focusing on one dance at a time is not a great idea, and neither is going to the opposite extreme by overloading yourself with too many styles.

Next, take the shortest route and get the fastest results by taking Private Dance Lessons. Whether you’re discovering Country, Swing or Latin dancing, you will need one-on-one dance instruction to really understand the details of how to lead, follow and connect with a dance partner. These details cannot be taught in a group setting with multiple people all at different levels and with different learning styles, but with private instruction, you can have your lesson tailored to you.

Lastly, be patient with yourself as you learn. Taking on partner dancing as an adult is a wonderful hobby and will provide an outlet for meeting new friends, relieving stress and having fun, but it does take more than a lesson or two to get to that point. Give yourself the amount of time you would to learn a new language, or pick up an instrument as you learn. It can take a few months, or maybe longer to get in your muscle memory. Once you have it though, you will know how to dance comfortably and naturally for the rest of your life.

Knowing how to social dance is challenging, exciting, and mainly, rewarding! Give yourself time to go through the process and you will have a skill that will keep your social calendar filled for years to come. Happy dancing!

 

What it Takes to be a Great Leader on the Dance Floor

swing dancing in Phoenix, ArizonaCountry dancing, Latin dancing and Swing dancing…they’re all so cool! You’ve been going to local bars, friend’s weddings and out to romantic dinners, and everywhere you go, it seems that knowing how to dance would come in handy. Well it does, especially when it comes to sweeping her off her feet and impressing others!

If you have been wanting to learn to social dance for years but you still haven’t gone out to give it a try, you’re not alone. Many people say it took them years to get the courage to learn to dance. They also say they wish they would have started sooner. Regardless of when you begin, it never too late! With a little effort, you can be a great leader on the dance floor. Here’s what you’ll need to get there…

First, start by taking some time to get educated on how to lead. Remember, no one is born knowing how to partner dance, so with the right information through Private Dance Lessons, you will be golden. If you’re wondering why I’m suggesting Private Dance Lessons (versus Group Classes), you can really only get the details needed to be a great leader when you’re working with a professional directly. An overview in a group setting is just not going to give you what you need to nail it on the dance floor.

With one-on-one Country, Latin or Swing Dance Lessons from your local ballroom dance studio, you will not only learn how to lead, but how to connect with your dance partner. You should also get some fun moves that you can execute with anyone on the dance floor. Knowing how to lead those moves is essential in showing her a good time, so steer clear of fancy choreography, and ask for key moves that you can do with confidence.

Speaking of confidence, that is a key element in you becoming a great leader on any dance floor. Whether you’re Two Stepping or Salsa dancing, you must go out there and essentially “fake it til you make it”. A shy or insecure dancer shows through immediately and one or both of these two things will happen from there. A: She’ll start to lead herself on the dance floor through turns and moves that she wants to do and/or B: She won’t dance with you again. Neither are good endings to what could be avoided if you invest in Private Dance Lessons first.

Lastly, dancers of all levels can always benefit from more practice. Be patient with yourself when you’re first learning to dance. It is intimidating at first, but with time, you will get past the fear and push through to the fun. Take a little time each week to  go out to a Country bar, Latin club or any place with dancing and apply what you’re learning so you can progress to the next level. Learning a new dance or dance step is one thing, but trying it in the real world is entirely different. You will get better with practice, patience and perspective (Rome wasn’t built in a day).

Have fun on your journey into discovering how to be a confident leader on the dance floor! Social ballroom dancing is an incredible way to meet new friends, relieve stress, connect with someone special, and maybe even uncover some hidden talents that you may not know you had. 🙂

 

Five Reasons Why She Leads Herself on the Dance Floor

East Valley Country Western dance lessonsYou’re out at your favorite County Western bar with your buddies Two Stepping the night away and there she is. Back against the wall is the prettiest girl in the place and she’s locked eyes with you. Victory!

Knowing that every girl loves to dance, you invite her onto the floor to Country Swing dance with you. Things start out fine, then all heck breaks loose as she begins to lead herself into a bunch of turns and dips that you don’t know! What is going on here? You’re supposed to be the leader, right? You ARE the lead on the dance floor, so why is this happening?

Well, there are many reasons why women lead themselves on the dance floor; fear, trust and insecurity are just a few. Most of the time, she doesn’t even realize she’s leading. She’s so used to “helping” or “compensating” for her partner that it has just become a bad habit. There are ways that we can break this habit for her, but that’s for another blog. For now, let’s explore why she leads herself in the first place.

Lack of Information: OK, let’s assume that this pretty lady has never been on a dance floor and has no idea what it means to follow. She may very well be yanking you around simply because she doesn’t know what else to do. Let’s face it, most people do not take Country Dance Lessons, they wing it. Or they watch the uninformed dancer next to them and they mimic what they do. It’s not her fault in this case. She just needs more information on what it means to be a follower on the dance floor.

Fear of not Looking Good: Then there’s the woman who does know what to do, but may be afraid that you won’t make her look good, so she turns and twists herself to show off or have fun. Unknowingly, this fear is not only preventing her from having the good time she is seeking, but she will ultimately get annoyed that she is “doing all the work” on the dance floor.

Trust: The other form of fear she is feeling is the fear of you not knowing what you’re doing. This leads to a lack of trust and sometimes into her leading herself to avoid being flung into others and treated like a rag doll on the dance floor. If this was ever happened to you, you know what I’m talking about. So many guys push and pull their partner on the floor, without being mindful of how she feels, that it can be scary! Guys, if you want her to relax on the dance floor, take care of her.

Insecurity: She knows that you’re in charge, but she can’t handle what that means. She doesn’t necessarily feel confident in her Country dance skills and doesn’t want to make a mistake, but she’s nervous and almost can’t help herself but take over and lead. Unless she tries to control the situation, she doesn’t know how it will turn out. I say, give her a break here. It all comes down to her nerves With a few dances and some trust, she will hopefully start to feel a bit better and will allow you to do your thing.

Fun: She just wants to have a good time! It doesn’t matter who you are, she’ll do what she wants, when she wants to. In her mind, she can give herself a better time on the dance floor than you probably could. OK men, what can we do about these ladies? Well, have a dance or two with her, and if she keeps wanting to turn herself, move on.

You’re going to run into all types of dance partners when you go out Country dancing. If you’re looking for a sure fire way to gain control as a leader and stay in control, I recommend that you make the investment in your self by signing up for Private Country Dance Lessons. Working directly with an instructor will give you the tips and tools that you need to be that ultimate leader on the dance for anyone who comes your way. You will also be much more self-assured, which will give her a chance to relax and enjoy being swept off of her feet. Now that sounds like a good time!